Mini-Rant

So, there’s a thing going on over at Facebook at the moment which is frustrating me somewhat. October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. That’s good, we should raise awareness about these things.

But! And this is a big but, I’ve been receiving messages on Facebook saying to publish a post with a single heart, but no comment – to raise breast cancer awareness. I’m sorry, but how am I raising awareness exactly if I can’t explain what the heart is for?

This isn’t the first time this happens of course, you see it every now and then. Post a fruit/the colour of your something/whatever random thing they think of – but don’t tell anyone!

I thought we were raising awareness! To do so, you need to tell someone. Me posting a heart on my Facebook page does nothing. The whole point of raising awareness is talking about it.

Or even better, go donate to the cause.

Rant over.

Reading Pet Peeves

I’ve been doing a fair bit of reading lately when I work my waking night shifts. Writing at work has turned out to be difficult since it requires quite a bit of focus, and I need to always be aware of what’s going on. Reading works though, and you won’t hear me complaining about that.

With my newfound reading time, I’m finding new (and old) pet peeves in the books that I’m reading. It should be said that these are all personal views, and doesn’t mean that a story is any better or worse than any other. We all have our own preferences, and something that I enjoy might not be someone else’s cup of tea and vice versa.

Some of my pet peeves:

  • Historical Inaccuracy
    When reading romance, I will often allow for a little suspension of belief, as long as it’s not asking for too much. You have your couple waltz before it was actually a socially acceptable dance, sure – I’ll let it slide. However, if your hero has a tobacco plantation in the south of England and is a slave trader… Just, no. Slave trading was illegal for Britons after 1807 (the story took place in 1813-1817), and I could be wrong, but I don’t remember reading about British tobacco plantations? (That weren’t located in the West Indies etc.) I’m sure there were people who still worked in the slave trade, but then the author should have made it clear that he was doing something illegal.

 

  • Head-hopping
    Fortunately, this isn’t something that I see a lot of in published books (whether self-published or traditional), but I’ve been reading some stories on Wattpad and Fanfiction sites (I know, I know – but sometimes it’s a lot of fun!). When the writer hops between the points of view of the main characters abruptly, sometimes within the same scene it’s very jarring. Please change chapter or at least a section break to give me a clue that we’re now in someone else’s head!

 

  • Infantilising
    I’ve mainly seen this in a couple of the very few erotic romances I’ve tried, but I know it sometimes happens in other books as well. It really creeps me out. When the hero is either talking about the heroine in terms that make her sound very young/girlish, or even worse calling her “baby girl”, “little girl”, “young girl” and so on. Extra squick points if he refers to himself as “daddy”. No, just no.

 

  • Dubious consent
    The book I’m currently reading has the hero more or less barging into the heroine’s flat at their first physical meeting (they’ve only spoken on the phone previously), and proceeds to spank her and do other sexual things to her, while she’s yelling at him to get out, to stop etc. It just made me very uneasy. Even while knowing that the author was trying to show him as dominating and her as a submissive who had forgotten how to be one (??!), it just didn’t sit right with me. Now, I’m no expert on BDSM, but isn’t the whole thing about consent and trust, in reality? You can’t just barge in and decide that you’re the new dominant without any base rules set? Correct me if I’m wrong.

 

  • Series not advertised as such
    This doesn’t really apply to series where each book is its own story with a beginning, middle and end (especially if each book is a new couple). But if you’re selling me a story, and it’s going to end on a cliffhanger – I’d like to know before I purchase the book, please.

 

These are some of my pet peeves, and I’m sure I’ve forgotten some.

Do you have any pet peeves in books? What are they?

When writing…

It frustrates me whenever I read things where you know people meant one thing, but it really reads like another. Not that I’m perfect and always write everything perfectly, but if you’re writing for a newspaper/tabloid, then maybe you should think about what you type?

This came across my news feed on Facebook this evening:

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Is it just me, or does this read as if she’s carrying a 47 year old baby?

Let’s be honest though, there’s no end to the things you can find if you start looking at headlines in newspapers and the like.

Oh, I wish I had saved a picture though… The other week on the local “for sale” page on Facebook someone had posted an image about their store having a sale – and the way it was phrased, it sounded like they were selling babies and toddlers.

Too Personal

Sometimes I think people are over-sharing on Facebook. I know, I over-share on the blog sometimes, but I like to think it’s not too much. (Everyone has different limits though, I guess.)

Anyway, I feel so embarrassed (second-hand embarrassment is a thing, okay!!) when I see someone link an article like “7 Things You Didn’t Know About Female Orgasms” and tag their partner. Come on, people! There’s a private chat for a reason!

Oh, and if you’re angry with someone – that private chat is really neat as well. You really don’t need to write aggressive messages on your wall that are clearly aimed at someone specific. (I’ve only seen this from Americans, is that typical?)

On the other hand, I go crazy when people write something cryptic on their wall, then if people ask about it they won’t tell. If you can’t say something about it, then don’t put it on your wall! (Yes, I’m nosy.)

I nearly died when someone actually started writing about how they were having such great sex with their new boyfriend. Fortunately that’s only ever happened with one person ever, so it’s not a trend that seem to be catching on.

How do you feel about people over-sharing on Facebook? Anything that drives you nuts?

 

Not Having Childen

I read this article in which they’ve collected the responses of twelve women on why they don’t want to have children. It’s amazing to me that in this day and age, it’s still such a strange thing for a woman not to want children.

Having children is such a huge job, and takes up pretty much all of your time. I can fully understand that not everyone wants to make that commitment. A lot of days I’m not sure I want to make that commitment.

It’s strange though, why it’s always women who are asked. Once you’re of a certain age, people will generally ask if whether you’re planning/want to have children. But only if you’re a woman. I rarely, if ever, hear anyone ask a man the same questions.

Why is it that women are meant to want to have children, and men not? Maybe we should just not ask people things that in the end, really is none of their business anyway. (Not to mention, it can be an extra touchy subject if it’s actually someone who does want children, but has issues conceiving.)

If you actually answer “no”, when someone asks if you want to have children though – there is usually no end to them trying to convince you otherwise. (I used to say no, I had a period in my life when I was very much against having children.) Especially people who have children themselves. Is it that misery loves company? They’re sleep deprived, so everyone should be sleep deprived?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m sure having children is great and is very rewarding. But I don’t think we should assume that everyone wants to have them. Not even if they’re women.

Frustration (again)

I feel like this is becoming a recurring topic (frustration). As you probably remember, I was excited because my copy of Inquisition arrived last week. As it currently stands, I’ve yet to be able to play it. And it’s not just because I was gone for a few days.

My crappy mobile internet has not been co-operating!

So, when I first wanted to install the game – I realised that it wasn’t possible without Origin. Which meant that I had to logon to Origin. Normally, my internet behaves well enough to at least allow that, but no – my Origin was not co-operating. So I was unable to even begin the install. Eventually, about nine hours later, Origin finally allowed me to logon and I could begin the install.

After the installation, there was an update to download (bug fixes and whatnot). Okay, I left my slow, slow internet on during the night – and it was downloaded the next day around noon. By then it was Friday, and we were leaving for dad’s.

Finally back home, I think that now I’ll finally be able to play. Ha! Of course not! When I try to boot up the game, I’m informed that my graphics drivers aren’t up to date. Cue hours of trying to get my internet to download the driver. It’s downloading at a whopping 10 kb/s. The file is 225 MB, at a normal speed it would be done in minutes! Time remaining on my connection? 8 hours and 23 minutes. (It varies a lot cause the speed went down to 6 kb and all the way up to 12 kb!)

It’s now Tuesday, and I’ve left the download on over night. Hopefully when I come home from work I can install the driver and get going. But with my luck something else is going to be wrong/not work.

As a side note, how frustrating is it that you have to be online on Origin to even install the game? If someone doesn’t have internet, they basically can’t play it. Sure, once it’s installed you can go on offline mode in Origin, but to have to be online to do the initial install… yeah, you need internet.

Also, the dragonagekeep site wasn’t working on my crappy connection. Fortunately, the boyfriend came to the rescue and filled it all out for me. Hooray for the boyfriend!

So true.

So true. (Image from The Oatmeal.)

 

For those confused

I’m so tired of people hating the word “feminist”, while actually believing in what feminism stands for. Feminists don’t hate men. They don’t want men to be pushed to the curb. They just want to share everything equally.

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Frustration

I’m so frustrated by my internet. Since moving I’m using this horrible, mobile internet (not even 3G) because it’s the only thing that can find a connection at all out here. And it’s driving me nuts. I can barely view websites, barely play World of Warcraft, barely check my e-mail and read blogs.

Some days it’s a little bit better, but for the most part it’s just awful. And it’s driving me nuts.

I’d like to spend some online time with the boyfriend, maybe leveling some alts in WoW or something. But I can’t – because my internet doesn’t let me.

Even blogging takes forever to load the page. That is, when it can be bothered to load the page at all. And as if all of this isn’t annoying enough – I have to pay a fortune for this shitty internet that barely works.

Sorry for the ranting, but I need to vent. I’m just so sick of it.

/Cringe

I came across this article, and it just illustrates really well some of the issues I have with the 50 Shades books. When you read the quotes like that, it becomes very cringe-worthy.

6 Quotes from 50 Shades of Grey

Telemarketing

Ever so often (a bit more often than I’d like), I have someone call me up, trying to sell me something. Why is it that they a) never actually listen to you and b) will never take no for an answer?

Some of them have become easy to say no to now, though. “Sorry, I’m moving abroad this summer.”

It doesn’t help when they’re not listening though.

Telemarketer: Hi! As a valued customer to … Book Club, we’d like to offer you a choice from five books for free!

Me: Oh… Well, do I have to buy any more books after that?

Telemarketer: Yes, but… <insert random segments about why it’s so great>.

Me: Okay, well sorry then. I’m moving abroad this summer and I’m trying to have as little as possible with me. I just got rid of a whole bunch of books.

Telemarketer: But our service is great <insert random segments about why it’s so great>.

Me: Yeah, but I’m still moving this summer and I don’t want more books to take along.

Telemarketer: (finally seems to understand what I’m saying) Oh, okay. Bye!

(It should be noted, that this “valued customer” hasn’t actually been one since I moved to The Netherlands, which was in May 2000.)

I love books, and it’s difficult for me to not buy any. At least there’s Kindle. So I can buy books without it adding to the pile of stuff I’m bringing with me to England. Finding the Kindle app for my iPad was the best thing for me!